André Imbayago

Once upon a time, a guy was dating this girl that he really loved. He loved her so much. Even though this guy had ‘issues’ from his past that could hurt, mess up or complicate this new found love, he decided to break up with this girl. His reason was that he needed space to sort himself out before committing to this new love. A few days after they broke up, they continued to 'talk’, chat and continue in some sort of way as though they were still together. The relationship after this was undefined for a while until they had to clear the air again. The guy mentioned he wanted to be apart from this girl because he needed some 'space’. The girl obliged even though it hurt. They were apart. Even after these multiple breakups, the guy couldn’t stay away from this girl because of his love for her nor could she stay away from him. But this much-needed space that he required, was indeed needed. If this relationship continued, they both would end up hurt in the long run and this guy would not be capable of loving her to the extent that he wanted.

One afternoon while swimming at the estate pool, the guy meets another girl swimming there. He was very friendly to her and they spoke a lot while they swam in the pool. The guy’s girl was there and did give the impression that she didn’t like this conversation. Guy brushed this off. Later that night, the guy decides that the only way to break up with this girl without relapse would be to do something hurtful to the girl she loved so that it made it hard for them to talk, chat or communicate in any way. This would mean that the girl would hate the guy forever and close all chances of them being together. So what the guy did was to pretend to go to this other girl’s house that he was swimming with so that the girl he wanted to break up with would think that he was seeing her right under her nose. A 'cheating’ with a girl from the same estate? That would be a massive breach of trust and respect. So the guy did exactly that. He left for his own place and left the estate and came back a few minutes later. The guards knowing the guy and who he frequently visits, they call the girl’s number and she opens for him assuming he forgot something. This time, he does not go to the girl’s place, he decides to linger around the estate to make her assume that he was with this other girl from the pool. The girl eventually worries and goes out to look for the guy but only finds him coming from a different direction in the estate from other properties. The girl is furious. The girl is hurt. She has been betrayed. In her eyes, the guy has disrespected her and hurt her deeply. This will forever be a non-forgivable act. She screams at him for a bit and storms back to her place. He leaves. They’ve broken up now. There is no coming back from this one even if he wanted. She blocks him in all forms of contact and cries herself to sleep. The guy now he has this space that he’s always wanted and a girl he loves that he cannot be with, if ever. Until he’s sorted himself out. This plot was all in the name of getting this space that he’s been wanting all along.

All this hurt and betrayal, just for space? Some would argue how heartless this was. Some would say that the guy should’ve just broke things off. Maybe an alternative stunt? Female underwear left lying around? Used condom wrapper? Nude picture of another woman? There could be many other ways to get this breakup to happen other than just talking or texting about it. But sometimes when a guy asks for this space, it is something they really want or need. Circumstances may differ in why and how this would work but it’s something you might want to talk about.

Some guys (cowards; as some would put it), would rather do something hurtful to attain this space they want or need. Not applauded but it’s a reality. As a female, you might think different and not agree. But that’s because females in this instance will always see things from their perspective. Even when the guy tries to explain from their perspective, they are met with resistance and misunderstanding. Females will not understand why, at all.
There are so many sides to this story and so many angles to this. This is just one.